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"You don't look gay" is something I hear often. In queer terms, I present as "femme" since I choose to wear my hair long and clothes that society associates with being feminine.These antiquated gender standards result in folks wrongfully presuming my sexuality simply based on their preconceived notions about my appearance.I'm mistakenly labeled as straight daily, which makes me feel invisible. The emotional labor of clarifying I'm pansexual and am attracted to people — not gender — takes a toll on my mental health and makes me feel like my sexuality is invalid.The effects of constantly coming outStraight-passing women being…